9-13 Yrs: Why 'Want' Doesn't Mean 'Must-Have'
You can't always get what you want... but how can you and your pre-teen
reach a reasonable compromise?
Consider
letting her manage her own budget - on paper at least! Tell her the total
amount available for her clothes, pocket money and expenses over a specified
time. Then let her decide how to spend it. Give her a book to keep track
of costs - and keep an eye on her!
Talk
it over
If you buy her designer sweatshirts, will she settle for chain-store jeans?
Perhaps there's something she could give up to pay for items she wants.
Can she earn money for chores? Many parents state the amount they're prepared
to spend on an item and then tell their child to come up with the additional
money if they want to get something more expensive.
Do as you would be done by
If your daughter hears you boasting about
your new designer jacket or premium perfume she's going to get the message
that brands are important. Many parents unconsciously bow to peer pressure
when they give their children extravagant birthday parties or lots of
expensive out-of-school activities. Your words and actions are a powerful
influence on her behaviour.
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