Development 9-13 Years: Pre-Teen Know-All
He doesn't believe in Santa Claus any more and he doesn't believe in
everything you say either. Your pre-teenager is starting to know his own
mind and this can come as a shock to parents.
Looking on the positive side, his wisecracks
are tangible evidence that your child's cognitive development is on track.
Keep a sense of humour - it will help you both get through the challenging
times ahead!
Too clever for their own good?
To be fair, it's not really his fault. He's
simply testing out his verbal fluency and abstract thought processes. It's
a heady combination - and you happen to be the most convenient target for
it.
I think, therefore I answer back
Given that his abstract thinking skills
are still in the preliminary development stage, some of pronouncements
may seem irritatingly silly and his sarcasm may fall flat. Try to be patient
and supportive. Avoid the temptation to respond with similarly sarcastic
'put-downs' - self-esteem is shaky at this age.
Encourage debate
Help your child find more productive ways to exercise
his skills by encouraging him to voice his opinions on current events
or controversial topics. Engage him in discussions at the dinner table
or in the car. Ongoing communication at this stage will stand you both
in good stead as you move through the teenage years together.
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