Unfortunately, bullying is widespread.

If you're concerned your child may be being victimised, your initial suspicions may well be right.

Unless you want to change schools, with all the extra problems that can bring, you'll have to deal with the bullies at this one.

Dealing with the bullies
Once you're certain of the facts, go back to the teacher and discuss the issue again. Ask if the school has an anti-bullying policy in place. Make it clear to your son that he must tell the teacher when he is teased or bullied.

Non-aggressive self-defence
Don't tell him to fight back or 'be tough'. Teach assertiveness instead. Practice with him saying 'Go away' in a loud and confident voice. Allow him to stand up to you sometimes and teach him to argue effectively. This may mean backing down occasionally but it will build up his confidence at home.

Humour can also be effective. Discuss with him ways of deflecting teasing by 'over stating' the case. If he's teased for having freckles, tell him to say 'Yes I've got freckles, I've got lots and lots of freckles I've probably got more freckles than anybody else in the world. I've got millions and trillions of freckles!' This tactic usually leaves the bully speechless.

If the bullies are bigger than him, teach your son to walk away. If the bullies gather in one place, he should avoid it. If he has to go there, he should go with friends.

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