This is an age of self-discovery. He becomes less dependent on you and begins to have confidence in his own values and judgments. Your child identifies with same-sex friends and probably thinks girls are 'soppy' (in turn, the girls will think he's 'yucky').

He moves away from fantasy pursuits and begins to enjoy more practical activities - making models, building a collection, sewing or constructive arts and crafts.

He begins to label himself
This attitude extends to his assessment of his own abilities. He begins to attach more firmly to his friends and compares himself to them. He may label himself accordingly - a fast runner, a dumb student, a geek. Try to help your child realize that these labels are self-affixed and don't reflect his potential.

Children go through many different stages and develop at different speeds. Encourage your child to put labels aside and keep all avenues open - he may surprise himself! Remind him of the changes that time can bring. Praise him for efforts as well as successes and focus on building his self-esteem.

Shock horror! Parents aren't infallible
Unfortunately, he doesn't always agree with you and may argue for his own point of view. This coincides with a firmer dependency on peers, usually of the same gender. He consults them for opinions and is eager for their acceptance. He wants to spend increasing time with them, away from the family.

• Development 4-7 Yrs: Not A Baby Anymore
• Development 4-7 Yrs: The 'Age Of Reason'
• Development 4-7 Yrs: A Sense Of Time
• 4-9 Yrs: Parenting Skills - What's Wrong With Labels?