Why
Is Security So Important For Toddlers?
The world is a big, frightening place when you're a small toddler.
No wonder your child feels insecure sometimes. But there are ways to provide
a 'safe base' for your toddler.
Changes which seem insignificant
to adults - like changing childminders, starting playgroup, or moving
house - can be overwhelming to an under-5.
And the biggest upheaval of all is accepting a new sibling into the family
circle.
The critical attachment period
From 7 months onwards, a baby begins
to show signs of close attachment to one special person, usually to mum.
This isn't a good time to introduce a new primary carer without sufficient
lead-in time. Choose someone who interacts warmly and sensitively with
your toddler and allow sufficient time for them to get used to each other.
The intensity of attachment peaks between 12-18
months and is followed by increasing independence and self-assertion.
Build a security network
The best security mechanism is a close,
caring security network of family and friends. A toddler's main attachment
is usually to mum but children also form attachments to other members
of the family - dad, brothers and sisters, uncles and aunts, grandparents,
childminders and carers. If you have to go away, there will be many others
with whom your toddler feels safe. It's also reassuring for you to know
that you're leaving your child with someone he knows and loves - and who
knows and loves him!
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