Silencing
A Serial Whiner!
A seriously whiney child will be unpopular, so for her own good it
has to stop.
Whining
can grind you down and your daughter knows it. Even if you've given in
to her in the past, it's never too late to change.
Anti-whining
strategies
Sit your child down and explain that you'll listen to her when she uses
her normal voice. If she continues to whine just say, over and over again,
'I'll listen, if you speak in a normal voice'.
Be
consistent and firm
Problems
may arise when she asks in a normal voice for something you don't want
to do. If you say 'no' to her at this point, she will probably revert
to whining - which, after all, has worked in the past. This is the time
to move on to the next strategy.
If
she's whingeing to get your attention, don't give it to her. Walk away
and do something else. Hang out the washing or phone a friend. You need
to keep calm and in control, so take time out for yourself. Thirty seconds
on your own in the garden can work wonders and whining doesn't sound so
bad out of doors.
Are they aware?
Often children aren't aware that they are
whining. Demonstrate what whining sounds like. Exaggerate for effect and
then tell her that next time she whines, you'll help her stop. Ask her
what you should do; cover your ears? Pull a face? If she decides on the
remedy she'll be more likely to accept it.
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