Toddler Tantrums: How To Respond
Screaming, wailing, howling, crying and gnashing of teeth. Your toddler's
tantrums are driving you mad... how should you respond?
When
a tantrum happens...
- Don't try to talk your child out of
it. The attention tends to make the tantrum last longer.
- Don't ask what is the matter. In a
fury, your toddler won't know and can't say, so leave it.
- Don't launch into rational explanations
as to why you can't do whatever is being demanded.
Find a distraction fast
Point to something out of the window or on the other side of the shop
and be very interested in it. Do something stupid like sing a silly tune.
If this doesn't work, remember younger toddlers and sick or tired children
need gentle reassurance. Only older toddlers who are out to defy your
authority need a firm hand. If your child is more upset than angry, hold
them tightly.
Stay
calm
Remember, you're the adult in this situation. Try to keep a cool head
- don't shout, smack or shake your toddler. If you are at home, walk away
and do something else but never leave your child unattended. In the throes
of a tantrum, children can easily hurt themselves, pass out or vomit.
If you are outside be firm. Ignore other people and don't feel embarrassed.
Never use sweets or biscuits as a bribe to behave - toddlers see it as
a reward.
It's better not to put your child to bed. If
the cot (or bed) is associated with punishment, it can lead to all sorts
of problems at bedtime. You can put your child in the corner but expecting
an overwrought toddler to stand still is a waste of time. Don't hold a
grudge against your child. Once the tantrum is finished, forget it.
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