Toddler-bullies may look small to you but they're pretty scary to another preschooler.

If you're certain your child is being victimised, you have two choices. Find another playgroup or deal with the bullies at this one.

Go to the supervisor or teacher and discuss the issue, making sure your child knows it's vital to tell the teacher when teasing or bullying happens.

Dealing with bullies
Don't tell your child to fight back or 'be tough'. Teach assertiveness instead. Allowing preschoolers to stand up to you sometimes teaches them to argue effectively. This may mean backing down occasionally but it will build up your child's confidence at home. Teach the art of the 'filthy look' and how to hold their head high. An assertive, confident child can cope better. Encourage friendships as there's safety in numbers.

Even if the problem's all in the mind, it's still real
If the supervisor/teacher assures you everything is fine and you can't actually see a problem, don't assume your child is making it up. After all, a preschooler isn't an adult yet.

Children often think they are being picked on when it's not the case. They interpret other people's actions wrongly. If they are shoved accidentally in a game, they can become nervous and feel rejected. They withdraw into themselves and, as a result, other children ignore them.

Talk to the teacher/supervisor again. Explain your concerns and ask them to make sure your child is not isolated. Make sure your preschooler has found a friend to play with before you leave them for your office, and help your child build up friendships by asking other children to your house.

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