You knew it would happen one day, but now that day is here - your teenager wants to move into his own place!

Your teen's desire for independence is not a personal rejection of you, but rather a natural part of his move towards adulthood.

However, it's important to make sure that he is emotionally ready for this step and equipped to handle the accompanying responsibilities.

Put emotions aside - review whether your teen's ready
Look objectively at your teen's maturity level and survival skills. Consider whether he has demonstrated a sense of responsibility in smaller areas. Review his ability to budget, meet commitments and generally take care of himself. Before giving your final blessing, you might want to consider increasing his opportunities for independence within the home. Observe how he handles his new responsibilities.

Discuss practical realities - negotiate options
Talk about the financial commitment required and whether your teen will be able to meet it on a regular basis. Discuss practical considerations like proximity to work, college or home. Negotiate how often he will check in with you and agree a time for reappraisal of the situation. Review any family responsibilities that you would like him to continue and any support that you will continue providing.

If a move is clearly beyond his practical reach right now, help him problem-solve how he can begin to prepare for a move to his own place in the future.

Be there for him when things go wrong
Don't try to protect your teen from all his mistakes. Remember that consequences are the best teacher. When he stumbles, be there for him without recrimination. Encourage him to learn and move on. Let him know that you have confidence in him and that he can always count on you for guidance and emotional support.

Maintain close communication
When your teen moves away from home, you will probably find that he is responsive to your efforts to keep in close contact - just don't overdo it! Regular phone calls will help to reassure you that he is managing successfully. Your teen may also find this a comforting link with home and a good opportunity to ask for advice.

Although you may take it for granted that your teen can visit whenever he likes, he may feel that he has given up these rights in exchange for his independence. Reassure him that he is always welcome, but call to issue invitations as well - even if it's just to join you for his favourite meal one night .