Try not to vent your anger to your teenager, even if you are the 'wronged party'.

They may seem old enough to confide in, they may even accept the news calmly and not appear upset, but don't turn them against their other parent.

Your children love you both and won't want to take sides, so don't undermine their other parent.

Find another shoulder to cry on
It's difficult to bottle up the hurt and rejection you may feel, but find another shoulder to cry on, not your teenager's. You are the adult and should resist burdening your teenagers with your pain. They have their own feelings to deal with and need support from you.

Set a good example for managing conflict
Divorce handled well can be a lesson in how to manage the changes life brings. Teenagers whose parents have divorced on good terms can learn to approach difficulties with courage and optimism. They may learn to see problems as challenges which - although hurtful and unsettling - can be resolved.

• Divorce: Don't Let Your Teenagers Take Sides
• Teens & Hostility Towards A New Partner
• How To Parent Your Teen: Tips On Talking It Over
• Support Organisations: Divorce & Separation