Back to work after baby? Your own misgivings, which may include guilt and even grief at the separation, can make this a very difficult step for both of you.

Many mothers return to work when their baby is around 6 mths old. Unfortunately, this is just the time when 'attachment' kicks in and babies get anxious with strangers.

How can you make the transition smoother?

Phase in the separation
Prepare both yourself and your baby for the separation well in advance. Things will be easier if you're lucky enough to be able to work part-time for the first few weeks.

If this isn't an option, introduce the new carer slowly, giving your baby time to get used to the new arrangements. Watch them together to reassure yourself your child's in good hands. Stay in the room for the first few visits, then leave your baby alone with the caregiver for short periods, until they both become more comfortable in each other's company.

Spread the security base!
Infants usually become attached to their mothers because that's who they spend most time with. You talk, play and laugh together and enjoy each other's company. That's special, but other people can do it too.

Babies who have warm and sensitive relationships with other carers become attached to them as well and don't miss their mum so much. Encourage siblings, as well as Dad, to form bonds with the new family member. Your baby will learn 2 important lessons - to trust other adults to take care of her and to trust you to return if you go away.

'We always do it like this'
One of the most reassuring things for children is routine and predictability. It's enough that you are leaving, so try to keep everything else in your baby's life the same. .

'Hello' and 'Goodbye' rituals
Avoid sneaking out. Say goodbye warmly and calmly. If the crying starts, don't prolong your leave-taking - the tears will probably stop shortly after you go.

Some babies are comforted by rituals, which help them remember that Mum has previously left and returned and that they can trust you. Kiss a blanket or a soft toy or blow a kiss when you leave. Create your own ritual. And when you return, greet your baby with a special hug and say 'I'm back!'

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